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Sad Fox news - Foxboy - 08-23-2019
My mother is not doing well at all.
She's been told that her congestive heart failure won't get better and that she can have 2 more years dealing with the stresses, both on herself and her family, of dialysis... or die on her own terms in about 2 weeks.
She's chosen the latter. Her transplant doctor/nephrologist basically told her that her passing is likely to be one of the gentler ways to go. But she's still going, and I'm going to miss her terribly.
And... one of her favorite covers:
RE: Sad Fox news - DHBirr - 08-23-2019
Aw, crap.... All I can offer is sympathy. No words of wisdom. Damn it.
RE: Sad Fox news - Bob Schroeck - 08-23-2019
Ah, jeeze, that sucks to hear. But speaking as one who watched his mother linger as dementia slowly took her, there is no small virtue in her choice, as hard as it must have been.
RE: Sad Fox news - nocarename - 08-23-2019
That sucks, and I wish you didn't have to go through it.
RE: Sad Fox news - classicdrogn - 08-23-2019
My sympathies, FB. Everything else I want to say sounds trite when I read it back off the screen, so I'll leave it at that.
RE: Sad Fox news - robkelk - 08-23-2019
For what little comfort this might give: Your mother is fortunate in that she will be ending her life on her own terms in her own way - very few people get that option.
And, yes, you're going to miss her terribly... and you will continue missing her for as long as you remember her. Trust me on this one. And remember her.
RE: Sad Fox news - Dartz - 08-23-2019
My sympathies.
RE: Sad Fox news - Rajvik - 08-23-2019
I'm both echoing everyone else and saying enjoy what time you can with her. My mother went the same way, not that the idiot doctors could recognize it. Gods be with you my friend.
RE: Sad Fox news - Terrenceknight - 08-23-2019
Can't add much beyond what everyone else has already said, I'm sorry you gotta go through this Fox but I'd like to echo what others have said that its a small boon that your mom at least has this choice.
RE: Sad Fox news - Star Ranger4 - 08-24-2019
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Gorram it Fox! what really hurts my soul here is that I have seen both sides of that equation and as much as I want MY mom to fight as long as possible, I can totally support your mom's choice.
RE: Sad Fox news - SilverFang01 - 08-24-2019
Been there with my grandmother. My sympathies.
RE: Sad Fox news - Logan Darklighter - 08-24-2019
I can’t add much that anyone else hasn’t said already. But yes, ending things on your own terms and forewarned is about as much consideration as death will allow. She has the grace to let go. May you find the grace and strength to let her.
RE: Sad Fox news - Dragonflight - 08-26-2019
I'm really sorry for what this is and will mean for you, but for what it's worth, we'll all be here for you too. My sympathies for your ordeal.
RE: Sad Fox news - Ebony - 08-28-2019
My condolences, Fox.
RE: Sad Fox news - Black Aeronaut - 08-28-2019
I'm sorry Fox. I wish there was something I could say, but I'd only be trying to add a silver lining.
But all the same, we're here if you ever need to vent.
RE: Sad Fox news - LulzKiller - 08-28-2019
Pre-emptive condolences.
RE: Sad Fox news - Labster - 08-29-2019
Being able to choose how to die is a blessing. Not the one we want, but at least it means one gets choice until the end.
A couple years back, my grandmother was moved into assisted living for various reasons, and no longer living with her family, she went downhill pretty fast. In a few months, she went from playing cards to not really responsive. Mama and I flew out to Tulsa to and spent a few hours over a couple days at her side. We couldn't really have a conversation with her, but just be companionable. The time came to say our goodbyes, and we flew back home; by the time the plane landed, Grandmother had passed on. I wish we had visited sooner, but I think somehow, she was able to choose when she let go. At age 101 it's hard to call it a tragedy, but a little blessing makes it hurt just a little less.