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Grieving - Foxboy - 01-06-2020
My mother passed away this week at 72, having outlived her doctor's prediction by 4 months.
She died from congestive heart failure, surrounded by her children, having survived from her 51st wedding anniversary through the holidays.
The severity of her CHF was essentially a side effect of her long-term dialysis (10 years worth) while waiting for a kidney transplant. And she was number two on the local waiting list for most of it, as her transplant surgeon... was more concerned with his rep and record of perfect surgeries refusing to operate because of her high BMI, which was... a side-effect of why she needed it. She eventually got her transplant at the Jacksonville Mayo Clinic, and her transplant was still working, it was just her heart couldn't pump the fluids where they needed to go.
Just had to vent.
RE: Grieving - Star Ranger4 - 01-06-2020
(01-06-2020, 02:37 AM)Foxboy Wrote: My mother passed away this week at 72, having outlived her doctor's prediction by 4 months.
And she was number two on the local waiting list for most of it, as her transplant surgeon...
Just had to vent.
wait, what? Your making it sound like YOU were the doctor in question Foxboy... Am I really right? cause at the moment I am not so sure.
RE: Grieving - classicdrogn - 01-06-2020
For whatever it may mean from some random dude on the internet, my condolences and best wishes for you and yours, Foxboy.
RE: Grieving - Shader - 01-06-2020
Losing family is never easy.
Even when you have warning, and they are living on borrowed time.
My condolences on your loss Foxboy. Take your time. We will be here when you return.
RE: Grieving - Bob Schroeck - 01-06-2020
It's been close to three years since my mother passed away; I know what you're feeling, Logan. My sympathies.
RE: Grieving - robkelk - 01-06-2020
Likewise. It's never easy to lose a loved one.
And that doctor who wanted to keep a perfect record should be mentioned to the local press.
RE: Grieving - SilverFang01 - 01-06-2020
My condolences.
RE: Grieving - DHBirr - 01-06-2020
I regret your loss.
RE: Grieving - Dartz - 01-06-2020
My sincere condolences.
RE: Grieving - Labster - 01-06-2020
Sorry for your loss. I understand your frustrations with the medical system.
RE: Grieving - Foxboy - 01-06-2020
I appreciate the kind words.
Quote:wait, what? Your making it sound like YOU were the doctor in question Foxboy... Am I really right? cause at the moment I am not so sure.
Not the doctor, just awkwardly worded. "as" instead of "because" etc. A New England-ish turn of phrase iirc.
RE: Grieving - Star Ranger4 - 01-06-2020
Oh. Okay, now I feel really dumb.
RE: Grieving - Rajvik - 01-06-2020
lost my mom the same way almost 4 years ago now, damn doc said they would just drain some of the fluid off when i suggested dialysis because my stepfather's brother had gone the same way not quite a year prior to that, they drained her the morning after i got her settled in the hospital, and she died that night with no one there because i had errands to run and she told me not to worry about coming by that night.
i wont say it gets better, or easier, but i will say that mostly you'll look back and remember more of the good times than the bad, or the end.
RE: Grieving - Terrenceknight - 01-06-2020
I am sorry for your loss Fox, even if you knew it was coming for some time, still it was a miracle in itself that your mom outlived the prediction for so long. Still its always a painful story to lose a loved one.
RE: Grieving - Star Ranger4 - 01-07-2020
(01-06-2020, 11:41 PM)Terrenceknight Wrote: I am sorry for your loss Fox, even if you knew it was coming for some time, still it was a miracle in itself that your mom outlived the prediction for so long. Still its always a painful story to lose a loved one.
Concur. Now that I'm over the embarrassment that my initial incorrect impression caused, I have to say that while it hurts Foxboy lost his mother (a landmine I have yet to face) I am seeing it as his mother spending all those years saying (explitve deleted) organized medicine that only cares about one's reputation.
This woman survived the worst the profession could throw at her. Something to celebrate, even as we mourn the loss of such a fighter.
RE: Grieving - Jinx999 - 01-07-2020
My condolences. When my dad died, I'd been expecting it for a while, but not so soon, if you get what I mean.
RE: Grieving - nocarename - 01-07-2020
That's painful and it sucks and I'm sorry it happened Fox.
RE: Grieving - ECSNorway - 01-07-2020
Very sorry to hear it, Fox.
RE: Grieving - firvulag - 01-08-2020
I'm sorry for your loss, Fox. My condolences.