I was in an odd position at my school. To use his analogy, I was a D-tabler on my own.
I really had no 'group' to be peers with, and ended up being no part (or some small part) of any table. In my school, the jocks weren't extremely popular, but the drama/music crowd was. The *really* popular people were the jocks who did drama and music. Interestingly enough, most of these were also the academically talented ones.
So there I was, a 'classic' nerd, surrounded by these popular giants. They did better than me in some academic classes, they did sports, they even outshone me in my one nod to trying to be popular, my interest in music and drama.
I had some friends, but no one I was really close with. My best friend was someone outside of the school - he went to a different high school. I would often hang around the C-table, but it was an on-and-off thing. I wasn't invited to parties or anything.
Oddly enough, in university, I ended up being a member of the A- and B-crowds due to my academic talents. I actually built up some good, if not close friends.
Unfortunately, my social ineptitude (and laziness, to be honest - I'd rather stay home and watch TV or play games than go out and socialize) meant I lost most of these friends. I run into them now and then, but I really only have two close friends, and I don't even see them that often.
It bothers me on and off now, but hey, this is my life. I have a wife I love and am happy with, and I'm more or less content. I don't know if I'd really *want* to be popular even now, if it meant a big change in my life.
Go fig.
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Christopher Angel, aka JPublic
The Works of Christopher Angel
"Camaraderie, adventure, and steel on steel. The stuff of legend! Right, Boo?"
I really had no 'group' to be peers with, and ended up being no part (or some small part) of any table. In my school, the jocks weren't extremely popular, but the drama/music crowd was. The *really* popular people were the jocks who did drama and music. Interestingly enough, most of these were also the academically talented ones.
So there I was, a 'classic' nerd, surrounded by these popular giants. They did better than me in some academic classes, they did sports, they even outshone me in my one nod to trying to be popular, my interest in music and drama.
I had some friends, but no one I was really close with. My best friend was someone outside of the school - he went to a different high school. I would often hang around the C-table, but it was an on-and-off thing. I wasn't invited to parties or anything.
Oddly enough, in university, I ended up being a member of the A- and B-crowds due to my academic talents. I actually built up some good, if not close friends.
Unfortunately, my social ineptitude (and laziness, to be honest - I'd rather stay home and watch TV or play games than go out and socialize) meant I lost most of these friends. I run into them now and then, but I really only have two close friends, and I don't even see them that often.
It bothers me on and off now, but hey, this is my life. I have a wife I love and am happy with, and I'm more or less content. I don't know if I'd really *want* to be popular even now, if it meant a big change in my life.
Go fig.
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Christopher Angel, aka JPublic
The Works of Christopher Angel
"Camaraderie, adventure, and steel on steel. The stuff of legend! Right, Boo?"