Please pardon me if I ramble a bit; I think I have a sense of what happened, but it's not easy to describe in words.
Long-distance relationships tend to come with a number of potential problems, just by their very nature. The big one is fitting the other person into your life.
When you're long-distance, you never really have to. You have to make time, true, but that pales in comparison to living in the same house, sharing your space, and trying to get along like that. You can see each other with video chat, talk with voice chat... but you don't have to be there with them.
I can't help but notice that the one time you saw each other before that was when she came to visit you... or, to put it more to the point, when she arranged to leave her current life temporarily to come into yours. Again, she never had to fit you into her life that way. It would've been like a vacation, psychologically speaking; it would've fit into the same mental box.
Once you went to her, though... that's a whole different kettle of fish. You were there, in her life. If things went well, both of you would've had to adapt, until you reached a common equilibrium. The fact that they didn't- and that you tried, but she didn't- suggests that the problem was with her. It sounds (based on limited data, from your side of the issue) to me like either she didn't get along with you as well as you'd both hoped, or she has (as Acyl said) a time management problem the size of the Pacific. You'd be better qualified to decide which.
In your situation, I probably would've done something similar to what you did. Might've left sooner, but that's just me. Sounds like you were justified.
You have my sympathies.
My Unitarian Jihad Name is: Brother Atom Bomb of Courteous Debate. Get yours.
I've been writing a bit.
Long-distance relationships tend to come with a number of potential problems, just by their very nature. The big one is fitting the other person into your life.
When you're long-distance, you never really have to. You have to make time, true, but that pales in comparison to living in the same house, sharing your space, and trying to get along like that. You can see each other with video chat, talk with voice chat... but you don't have to be there with them.
I can't help but notice that the one time you saw each other before that was when she came to visit you... or, to put it more to the point, when she arranged to leave her current life temporarily to come into yours. Again, she never had to fit you into her life that way. It would've been like a vacation, psychologically speaking; it would've fit into the same mental box.
Once you went to her, though... that's a whole different kettle of fish. You were there, in her life. If things went well, both of you would've had to adapt, until you reached a common equilibrium. The fact that they didn't- and that you tried, but she didn't- suggests that the problem was with her. It sounds (based on limited data, from your side of the issue) to me like either she didn't get along with you as well as you'd both hoped, or she has (as Acyl said) a time management problem the size of the Pacific. You'd be better qualified to decide which.
In your situation, I probably would've done something similar to what you did. Might've left sooner, but that's just me. Sounds like you were justified.
You have my sympathies.
My Unitarian Jihad Name is: Brother Atom Bomb of Courteous Debate. Get yours.
I've been writing a bit.