I will rate this relationship collapse in terms that Bob uses to describe the security settings on Douglas Sagnoirs bike: FUCKING OUCH.
More seriously... It does seem that she doesn't have her priorities straight. More importantly, she seems like someone that is very much unable to formulate and/or follow a long-term plan. Now, this is where it's kinda tricky. If she simply couldn't figure out a plan, well... In a relationship she could leave the major plotting to a significant other so long as she had her own input. But being unable to follow the plan once its set? *shakes head* Not worth it. You might lover her and all that, but having someone like that so intermeshed with your life only leads to pain and suffering.
Oh, and as I delivery driver, I have to say that I fucking HATE GATED COMMUNITIES. I have seen very few that are actually effective at what they do. And the ones that are effective are such to the point that there's no way for me to get in. I have to phone a customer and wait five or ten minutes for them to come down and pay me and get their food.
That said... She really didn't think this out too well. For one thing, she could have picked up a spare fob for you to get in and out. I don't see why not. "Hi! My friend from Australia is coming over for a couple of months and will be staying with me. Can I get a spare fob?" "Of course. We'll just need a photo copy of his visa just for security purposes." Sure, some places can be real ass-holes about this sort of thing and just plain say no. At which point she could have arranged for you to stay with a trustworthy friend that didn't live in a gated community.
And another thing... I could see the whole job thing - she's gotten herself into a hole and now she needs to get dug out, ASAP. (Ditching the car would help - not like she could take it with her because that sort of shit is expensive as all hell.) But she definitely took it too far by sucking up to her boss and co-workers. And believe me, from what you'd described, I'm surprised you didn't mention that whenever she came home her nose was brown.
Don't get me wrong. I like having full-time hours and I like having overtime even more. It gets me money that I am in dire need of, and the work I do now has got nothing on my life in the Navy. But when it comes time for me to cut and run, and I have definite reason to do so, my boos doesn't mind one bit. Sure, they're keeping an eye on labor costs, but I know they like having me around. I know because whenever I go to help out at another store they start begging me to come work for them regularly.
And there is where she needs to learn to draw her priorities. Money is good, looking good for the boss is great, but the boss (if they're a decent sort) will understand you got a life, too, and you need to take some time for it.
In short, I'd just let her go. Sure, she might be great fun to talk to and all, but that's all she really seems to be good for. Sure, one might be able to help her out, get her to not be such a flake, but that requires time and resources you do not have access to. And also, you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. If she is that convinced that you're in the wrong... WELL! Good riddance!
More seriously... It does seem that she doesn't have her priorities straight. More importantly, she seems like someone that is very much unable to formulate and/or follow a long-term plan. Now, this is where it's kinda tricky. If she simply couldn't figure out a plan, well... In a relationship she could leave the major plotting to a significant other so long as she had her own input. But being unable to follow the plan once its set? *shakes head* Not worth it. You might lover her and all that, but having someone like that so intermeshed with your life only leads to pain and suffering.
Oh, and as I delivery driver, I have to say that I fucking HATE GATED COMMUNITIES. I have seen very few that are actually effective at what they do. And the ones that are effective are such to the point that there's no way for me to get in. I have to phone a customer and wait five or ten minutes for them to come down and pay me and get their food.
That said... She really didn't think this out too well. For one thing, she could have picked up a spare fob for you to get in and out. I don't see why not. "Hi! My friend from Australia is coming over for a couple of months and will be staying with me. Can I get a spare fob?" "Of course. We'll just need a photo copy of his visa just for security purposes." Sure, some places can be real ass-holes about this sort of thing and just plain say no. At which point she could have arranged for you to stay with a trustworthy friend that didn't live in a gated community.
And another thing... I could see the whole job thing - she's gotten herself into a hole and now she needs to get dug out, ASAP. (Ditching the car would help - not like she could take it with her because that sort of shit is expensive as all hell.) But she definitely took it too far by sucking up to her boss and co-workers. And believe me, from what you'd described, I'm surprised you didn't mention that whenever she came home her nose was brown.
Don't get me wrong. I like having full-time hours and I like having overtime even more. It gets me money that I am in dire need of, and the work I do now has got nothing on my life in the Navy. But when it comes time for me to cut and run, and I have definite reason to do so, my boos doesn't mind one bit. Sure, they're keeping an eye on labor costs, but I know they like having me around. I know because whenever I go to help out at another store they start begging me to come work for them regularly.
And there is where she needs to learn to draw her priorities. Money is good, looking good for the boss is great, but the boss (if they're a decent sort) will understand you got a life, too, and you need to take some time for it.
In short, I'd just let her go. Sure, she might be great fun to talk to and all, but that's all she really seems to be good for. Sure, one might be able to help her out, get her to not be such a flake, but that requires time and resources you do not have access to. And also, you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. If she is that convinced that you're in the wrong... WELL! Good riddance!