I hate drawing conclusions from one half of a story, but I think there's enough to do so here.
This... doesn't sound like a person who is interested in marriage. At least not a love marriage, anyway. A love marriage means that you're acknowledging the other person as the most important person in your life. And if she was working on emigrating to Australia, that should have meant that she was willing to throw away the larger part of her current life to be with you. And that just didn't happen.
along, Mr. Fiance.
there's not enough information here to say if you did something wrong
(though you probably did, being human and all), but in the end that
really doesn't matter. You would have worked past it in a week if it
was ever going to work out, rather than the problem getting
progressively worse.
Long distance relationships are always fraught with problems, because it is so easy to assume how one would feel if one was physically present. Theories are all fine on paper, until you do the experiment. Bluemage said it earlier -- being with you was easy when it was a vacation from her life, but she couldn't figure out how to fit you into her everyday life. Or she didn't really know what it would take to be around a guy in a wheelchair every day. And given that this has been thirteen years in the making, I doubt she will ever to mature enough to fit you in.
And that sucks, man. Nothin' to do now but write some blues and/or country music.
-- ∇×V
This... doesn't sound like a person who is interested in marriage. At least not a love marriage, anyway. A love marriage means that you're acknowledging the other person as the most important person in your life. And if she was working on emigrating to Australia, that should have meant that she was willing to throw away the larger part of her current life to be with you. And that just didn't happen.
Quote:When she was off work sheAnd you weren't good enough to bring
had to go to her friends
along, Mr. Fiance.
the Woman Wrote:While I understand your pointLol. Anyway,
of view... I do not know your standpoint.
there's not enough information here to say if you did something wrong
(though you probably did, being human and all), but in the end that
really doesn't matter. You would have worked past it in a week if it
was ever going to work out, rather than the problem getting
progressively worse.
Long distance relationships are always fraught with problems, because it is so easy to assume how one would feel if one was physically present. Theories are all fine on paper, until you do the experiment. Bluemage said it earlier -- being with you was easy when it was a vacation from her life, but she couldn't figure out how to fit you into her everyday life. Or she didn't really know what it would take to be around a guy in a wheelchair every day. And given that this has been thirteen years in the making, I doubt she will ever to mature enough to fit you in.
And that sucks, man. Nothin' to do now but write some blues and/or country music.
-- ∇×V