Quote:If so, then you can find her employer's legal department and tip themUnfortunately, she got fired from her day job a week or so after I left. Tech/hardware support at a contractor for Apple. Was making $1800 a month off of it - to me that's lousy - less than it's half what I make off my full time job, but she thought it was a good position.
off... and make sure you tip off the appropriate law enforcement agency,
too. That'll light a fire under their asses.
The part time job is at a makeup salon - she wants to move into that industry and she's good at it - but because she's trying to get the experience she lets them demand whatever. And because she's good at it, they string her along on part time pay - while she's working close to full time hours.
Apparently she was ill enough to be bed-ridden for two weeks straight - costing her the day job - which given that she was fine when I left (and I've seen her go to work when I would have considered her as sick as a dog), tells me the emotional backlash of everything falling apart hit us both equally hard. Which means she does care - just incapable of translating feelings into concrete action...esp. when they entail taking a risk!
Quote:(Driving around in a new Jeep does not strike me as 'blue collar worker'.)The jeep (Rubicon) is second hand - she's had no end of trouble with it. Keeps needing to be taken to the mechanics. Personally, I think she got ripped off at $16k.
The remaining $11k she owes to the county for the operation - her previous employer's health insurance refused to cover it as she'd only recently started (not the Apple job, she was working at a private school - she's qualified as an early childhood teacher, if you can believe it - but quit because of personality clashes with other staff) and they argued successfully that a kidney stone qualified as a 'pre existing condition' even though their doctors never caught it when she started work. I offered to help her out at the time but got leery when she inisted I write up a contract - which was weird if we were to be married...
Quote:Girls like this, they can seem mature up until you spend some time withYou're right about that. She's estranged from her family, has no close friends (besides co-workers that are constantly asking her to do stuff) and burnt her bridges now with the one person who's done nothing but support her from the time I met her. How the hell she's gonna get out from under when she's systematically sacrificed all her support network for short term gains (which she now hasn't got) I have no idea. I figure she's going to windup on the street at this rate. I gave her a golden parachute out of the whole mess - but she was so focused on 'having her cake and eating it too' - because of course, she thought she could handle it, she's got nothing...
them and see their personal life up close and... well, personal. And
then you come to realize they don't have the slightest clue as to what
the hell they were doing.
No food in the fridge, lives on avocado, yogurt and take out - works all day. Place needs a good clean, dust and vacuum. I did my best while stuck there but for obvious reasons, domestic chores are difficult for me. She dresses and makes herself up like a pint sized makeup model, but everything else is falling apart... Like you say, not the sign of maturity or wisdom.
What sucks is I still care for her. But she's completely ripped away all the other possible avenues of action. Unless she gets mature enough to see that to have me in her life she has to rebuild it under her own steam over here in Australia - and prove she can make sane decisions - there really is no future for us in any shape or form.
I know it, I get it. It still feels like I'm missing something fundamental out of my innards...