Morning Sai,
Sorry to hear what happened to you. A similar situation happened to me last May. I had a 3 year long distance relationship that I had to terminate and I'm still feeling the pain. I met her just before I left Los Angeles for Birmingham, Alabama for a new job. I was jobless for a year before and this was something I cannot refuse. She was about 2 years from finishing college at a time. I last saw her about 2 years ago when I visited Los Angeles.
The problem with the relationship was that it felt to me that I was doing all the work. I'm the one who called her up first, talked to her and gave her support both emotional and financial. I gave her a cellphone and paid for the plan for the last 2 years, so her finances would not be strained. The only time she called me was when she needed money. I felt at times that she got the benefits of the relationship without the work.
What finally broke the relationship was when her requests for help to cover her bills started getting more frequent and getting bigger. I told her repeatedly to at least tell me in advance how much she was going to need so I can budget it and avoid those ruinous money transfer fees. Western Union must be making money hand over fist. She never did. call me in advance. It has to be immediately. The last straw was when she said she needs $800.00 by next day. Her excuse through out was that since I have a good job and she hasn't, I can afford to send her the cash.
I ended staying up all, night to decide on what to do. I finally decided I had to end it. I wired the cash to her. I then called her up and told her that I had to let her go. Her main concern that I was going to sue her to get my money back.. Called the phone company after that and told them to block her number and terminate phone service after two billing cycles.
She also comes from a dysfunctional family, from what I can gather. Looking back, I knew it was going to take a lot of effort and commitment to make a long distance relationship work, but she would rather have the benefits without the corresponding effort. A stable relationship will not occur if there is only one working at it.
At this point in time, it's more of an ache now, rather than a sharp pain. The only thing I can tell you know is to move on. Move forward. Don't do anything destructive. And I hope it works out for you.
__________________
Into terror!, Into valour!
Charge ahead! No! Never turn
Yes, it's into the fire we fly
And the devil will burn!
- Scarlett Pimpernell
Sorry to hear what happened to you. A similar situation happened to me last May. I had a 3 year long distance relationship that I had to terminate and I'm still feeling the pain. I met her just before I left Los Angeles for Birmingham, Alabama for a new job. I was jobless for a year before and this was something I cannot refuse. She was about 2 years from finishing college at a time. I last saw her about 2 years ago when I visited Los Angeles.
The problem with the relationship was that it felt to me that I was doing all the work. I'm the one who called her up first, talked to her and gave her support both emotional and financial. I gave her a cellphone and paid for the plan for the last 2 years, so her finances would not be strained. The only time she called me was when she needed money. I felt at times that she got the benefits of the relationship without the work.
What finally broke the relationship was when her requests for help to cover her bills started getting more frequent and getting bigger. I told her repeatedly to at least tell me in advance how much she was going to need so I can budget it and avoid those ruinous money transfer fees. Western Union must be making money hand over fist. She never did. call me in advance. It has to be immediately. The last straw was when she said she needs $800.00 by next day. Her excuse through out was that since I have a good job and she hasn't, I can afford to send her the cash.
I ended staying up all, night to decide on what to do. I finally decided I had to end it. I wired the cash to her. I then called her up and told her that I had to let her go. Her main concern that I was going to sue her to get my money back.. Called the phone company after that and told them to block her number and terminate phone service after two billing cycles.
She also comes from a dysfunctional family, from what I can gather. Looking back, I knew it was going to take a lot of effort and commitment to make a long distance relationship work, but she would rather have the benefits without the corresponding effort. A stable relationship will not occur if there is only one working at it.
At this point in time, it's more of an ache now, rather than a sharp pain. The only thing I can tell you know is to move on. Move forward. Don't do anything destructive. And I hope it works out for you.
__________________
Into terror!, Into valour!
Charge ahead! No! Never turn
Yes, it's into the fire we fly
And the devil will burn!
- Scarlett Pimpernell