I was able to get the broad strokes. That somehow the shit had hit the fan after Shinji had 'died'. There was also the fact that apparently this wasn't the first time that Misato and company had gone through this whole song and dance only to discover that the Shinji they found was actually a fake (and very likely some pre-programmed killer doll). Add in any misgivings folks had about Shinji fucking it all up by getting himself offed in the first place and that particular moment in time not being a very good one for doing this sort of thing and... well, there you have it.
Though I will agree that Misato and Asuka were carrying giant idiot balls.
Though I will agree that Misato and Asuka were carrying giant idiot balls.