I think I should add the following to what I said above:
I don't suggest we stop trying to get actual gay marriage after we get all individual rights. I don't suggest that at all. What I'm suggesting is that - once people see that giving LGBT the same individual rights that typically fall under the banner of traditional marriage and that doing so is no threat, then give them a few years to get used to the idea. Get comfortable with it. Then get them to start wondering why, if they have all the same things that a straight married couple does, what would it hurt to give them that last measure? Let the mainstream culture accept it. Let those who STILL rail against it become enough of a minority that they cannot stop it. Let it become - not just a ruling based on a court decision that could be overturned. But part of the culture itself. To be considered normal. And then the law of the land. That's what I meant by making it a fait accompli.
I don't suggest we stop trying to get actual gay marriage after we get all individual rights. I don't suggest that at all. What I'm suggesting is that - once people see that giving LGBT the same individual rights that typically fall under the banner of traditional marriage and that doing so is no threat, then give them a few years to get used to the idea. Get comfortable with it. Then get them to start wondering why, if they have all the same things that a straight married couple does, what would it hurt to give them that last measure? Let the mainstream culture accept it. Let those who STILL rail against it become enough of a minority that they cannot stop it. Let it become - not just a ruling based on a court decision that could be overturned. But part of the culture itself. To be considered normal. And then the law of the land. That's what I meant by making it a fait accompli.